”Exerting your will” is how you let other people get to know you.
Not power games, just things like “I really like Chinese food” or “We should go to this great exhibit I’ve been wanting to see”.
If you don’t put yourself on the line a little bit, if you always hold back what you think or how you feel (even if you’re not consciously holding back, but instead just thinking that your opinion doesn’t matter or isn’t important), you’re to some extent refusing to share yourself with others in ways that can be healthy and necessary for relationships.
Sometimes you just need to take a deep breath and start dumping all the internal thoughts onto people, just as a courtesy, really.
How are they supposed to know what you want or who you are, if you never share any of that with them?
(Occhiblu)
